Now that my new book “The Ultimate Path to Forgiveness” is officially “out”, here’s one last excerpt.
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Thousands of books and articles have been written about forgiveness and its benefits. So why do people have such a hard time with it? Some can’t forgive because the person or act was unforgivable.
That’s fair.
Others simply don’t want to forgive. They want to keep their pain. It’s become a part of who they are. A part of their soul, if you will. Besides, if they forgive, then people will stop sympathizing with them. They won’t get the attention anymore and then who would they be?
While forgiveness can be a healing and liberating act, the inability to forgive can cripple people and prevent them from moving forward in their life.
Why won’t people forgive?
Below are a few reasons people have given me for not forgiving, and my responses.
If I am angry then I can’t be hurt again. My anger protects me.
- Suppressed anger is toxic and will lead to a host of physical issues including stress, which is also toxic.
If I forgive them then that means the other person was right and they were not right!
- No, it doesn’t mean they were correct. It means you wish to be free.
If I forgive them, then I have to tell them I forgive them, and I really don’t want to do that.
- No, you don’t have to contact them. Forgiveness is personal.
The person I need to forgive is dead, so it’s too late.
- It’s not too late to forgive people who have already passed on.
To forgive, then I will have to remember my horrible dysfunctional childhood. It’s too painful for me.
- I understand that you don’t want to remember your dysfunctional childhood, but forgiving it will allow the pain of the memories to dissipate forever. You won’t have to go back there ever again if you don’t want to. For me personally, I now remember the good times. The bad? I find it really hard to dredge those memories up.
It’s important to remember that forgiveness is a gradual and very personal process and may take time, but ultimately, it leads to emotional liberation, inner peace, and joy.
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